Anonymous sent: I just got back from hanging out with an old friend. She was on her phone texting a guy she liked every minute. One of my biggest pet peeves. When we stopped by her house I felt like her mom was judging me & my family. While she was driving me home she kept telling me we're going to the beach, concerts, hanging out more this summer but it's usually just words. She just tells everyone what they want to hear. Nothing changes & tbh I'm not sure I want to continue being friends. What would you do?

I’m not sure what the problem is. I understand the part about your friend on the phone, but whenever my friend does that, I flip shit and take her phone away.

But the other part, I don’t click on the issue.

But regardless, if you don’t wanna be friends, then drop her. No point forcing yourself if you don’t want to. It’s just a waste of time.

Anonymous sent: Hello. :3 So I like this guy, and everyone around me including my best friend has been telling me that he likes me back too, since it's really obvious apparently. But the thing is, he still might have feelings for his old girlfriend too. Whenever she enters the room, I always catch him looking at her. Is he basically using me as a replacement for her? I've tried getting over him, but I don't think I can... should I continue talking to him or...?

You shouldn’t assume anything you aren’t sure of. So he looks at her, so what? I look at all my ex boyfriends every now and then, and it’s mostly because of the lingering feelings, but I wouldn’t go back with them in a heart beat.

You can choose to let your doubt ruin what might be, or take the risk and see where it goes from there. No one can make the choice for you darling.

Anonymous sent: I lost somthing very important, and it's my brother's. He got mad me for losing it. And told me to find it somewhere in te house. Last time I saw it was last year in September. He really wants it but I don't know what to do, because I can't did it at all. It's a marine yearbook.

I don’t know what to tell you? This is a situation I don’t think people can fix unless you find the lost item.

I would never understand the importance of a yearbook, but regardless, let him know you’re very sorry and keep looking for it.

You never know, it might be somewhere you least expect.

Anonymous sent: i like this guy... and well he hasn't even really noticed me.. i always stare at him during class which is just weird.. and well he knows my name and knows me but we arent friends.. but like my other guy friends are close with him :P & so, i really want to get close to him at least be friends before school is over (which is soon) :P so how could i become closer with him?? thank you ^^

My first suggestion is to just introduce yourself. Sure he knows your name, but he doesn’t really know you. Also, another way is just hanging out with your guy friends who hang out with him (:

Anonymous sent: Quotations because I don't want anything to do with him...You're right though. It doesn't matter what they've done to me, I shouldn't let them have this effect on me. Being angry is more harmful to me than anyone else. It's not like I'm going to live with them forever. Thanks Roseane

Be happy love, things happen and things will always change, for the better. You’ll be fine darling, trust me ♥

Anonymous sent: No one told me that my "brother" was getting married or that they were moving in with us. I can't stand being home anymore & everyone keeps saying I'm a bad person just because I don't want certain people in my life, especially ones forced on me...

Why do you put your brother in quotes? I don;t know. It depends on the situation for you to react that way and I can’t judge by the information you’ve given me.

Maybe you should open up, things take time, but don’t be too harsh.

Anonymous sent: Today, me and the guy I like went to the mall because I told him I would buy him shoes. So after we bought the shoes and we both went home, he messaged me and was like "If someone asks you if you bought me shoes say no" and then he added "I don't want to be made fun of" I'm kind of hurt and I don't know what to do...

I’d take back the shoes. Like seriously. If you can’t admit I bought shoes for you, well, I want my shoes back. 

Anonymous sent: What should I do when the guy I use to like says I love you to me by webcam? To me, I assume that he was joking. I was just nodding my head saying yeah, uh-huh. But ever since that day we stopped talking. & now I'm even more conscious of him, but I can't like him again because he is a player..

I don’t really know? Because when guys tell me they love me, whether it’s via text, phone, webcam or whatever, I always say it back. I don’t have to mean it because if we joke around, it probably was that way.

But if you guys stopped talking over something like that, he might have been really interested in you. Or, because he’s a player he’s just like that after all that?

Anonymous sent: I have a friend I've known for 8 years now, but he lives in another country and we've never met. He's the only person I've ever found that I feel I can actually trust, and talking with him online is a sure way to make me feel better. Sometimes I think if we could just meet we'd be able to solve each others relationship problems. But getting a visa to the US is extremely difficult for him and I am way too broke to travel. :/ Is is strange to feel that attached to someone youve never actually met?

No, never. I mean I’m more attached to my online friends than I am with my real life friends. I mean, I went to Roo’s house and she was a complete stranger to me and my family. We all connect in different ways. I’m really close to Jaeny and well, we were close before we even met in real life.

There is nothing wrong with connecting with other people, it’s all a matter of how you like to think of it.

Of course our parents wouldn’t actually agree, but you’ve known this guy for 8 years, it’s gotta count for something. 

Anonymous sent: There's this guy I used to like in the beginning of the school year now I stopped. We are fairly close. We talk about anime and other things every time in class. He touches me all the time which make me feel weird. We FaceTime with each other, and one lasted for 2 hours. When he was absent one day, he messenged me on fabook at 10am. He knew I wasn't even at home yet. I even had a dream of him askin me out. My friend  apparently ships me and him. Does he like me? &myfeelings.

I can’t really tell because I know a lot of guys like that and none of us are interested in each other.

You should definitely ask him, because well, you used to like him and sparks could fly once again you know ~

Anonymous sent: I have no one to go to for help. It's always: You're 19/an adult. You should know. Figure it out on your own. Go away, I'm effing tired. Why the f are you crying! Move out. I don't know what to do anymore.

Love, you are the only person who can tell you if you know whether or not you’re capable of doing something.

If no one helps you, fuck them and help yourself :3

Anonymous sent: Is it best to run away from home if your whole family is shit?

Never. I don’t care what the problem is, running from your problems is not the answer. I know that first hand. 

Anonymous sent: Last week my friend kept asking me if I wanted to go to the park with her on Saturday to play. I said sure, and so on Saturday morning, I waited for her to call me and tell me the time and place to meet, but she never did. I called her in the afternoon and she sounded really grouchy and when I asked her if we were meeting, she snapped and said no and hung up. Then she told everyone that I'm mad at her and began giving me the silent treatment. What do I do? And she's my mom's BFF's daughter!

So what if she’s your MOTHER’S best friend’s daughter? She obviously isn’t your best friend. Why should it matter what her feelings are if she can’t care about yours?

She should’ve had the courtesy to call you and cancel, instead of being so rude. And who cares what people think? You two know what happened, if you’re mad at her, be mad. If she wants to give you the silent treatment, let her. How old are you guys? 5? Honestly, who really gives silent treatments to solve problems anymore?

Anonymous sent: Umm .. I usually like to tell my friends things like, how I feel towards a person for example , " Sometimes blah blah blah annoys me because blah blah blah" & I don't say mean things about that person, it's just to me, I feel better letting everything out ... Does that still consider gossiping ?

The definition of gossip is similar to a rumor, but instead it is within your group of friends.

You’re just telling your friends how you feel about someone, it’s not going to kill anyone. LOL.

To me, it doesn’t matter. I say what I know and I don’t care what people think :D

Anonymous sent: Lately, I haven't been eating as much as I used to, (I used to it about 3-5 meals a day but now I only eat 1 or 2) and my family has been calling me anorexic. How do I deal with them? ;~;.

Love, sometimes you just need to tell them, eating less doesn’t mean you’re anorexic or has an eating problem. You’re just eating less ;___;